7 Romance Tropes You Know You Secretly (Or Not-So-Secretly) Love and Hate

Tropes are everywhere these days! Even though not everyone loves them, some are just really fun to read. And so, in honor of Valentine’s Day, I’ve decided to make a post listing 7 romance tropes you either love or hate! I thought it would be a fun post to do, so… Let’s do this!

7 Romance Tropes You Know You Love or Hate

1. Love Triangle 

Now, this one is definitely one of the reasons I felt compelled to add ‘hate’ to the title here. I know a lot of people hate this one—though to be honest (for some this may not be anything new) love triangles don’t bother me as much as some other people. ‘Cause well-written love triangles are actually really good! *cough* The Infernal Devices *cough*  They can bring out so many emotions, and also contribute to character development so.. #I’mhappy But I’ll be the first to admit that love triangles that are poorly written are definitely not something to like! But when they are…

2. Forbidden Love

Now, I’m not sure where exactly this falls into; it has both its lovers and haters, as most everything in this world! I find this often in fantasy, paranormal or dystopian/sci-fi novels, but it has a presence in contemporary novels too. I don’t mind this trope that much, although it definitely depends on the actual execution and the story. You know the type; even if the two characters are in love with eachother, there’s something that’s preventing them from actually being together. Often times I see this alongside a love triangle; one of the love interests are ‘forbidden’ if you know what I mean.

3. Insta-Love

Sound familiar? You bet it does. The trope of insta-love is well known.. although not that well-received by readers. And I can totally understand that! Insta-love is just so hard to relate to sometimes, and us readers being the cynical and sour lemon (not that there’s anything wrong with that) it’s not that believable either. Often times this is a trope that cause people to disregard romance in a book, which is unfortunate, but it does have its fans—after all, if it didn’t, why would authors continue to use it so much?

4. Best Friend Romance

I think this is definitely one of the most-loved tropes..? Maybe? It could be just me, but this trope is really popular—and I totally see why! It’s one of my favourite tropes too, no matter how many times I read it. Reading a story where a pair of close friends fall in love is just so sweet and heart-warming! It’s kind of hard to resist that charm. Not that most people want to, right?

Basically me when I read a fluffy best-friend romance… IT’S JUST SO CUTE.

5. The Player/Bad boy

The player/bad boy trope is one I’ve seen often (or so it seems), whether it be a romance novel, a fantasy novel, or a paranormal. The main male character is labelled as a ‘player’, and has a reputation for playing the field, seeking relationships usually without much emotional attachment other than lust, until he meets his one true love. You can’t deny hearing this one before, it’s must’ve been in at least ONE of the books you’ve read!

6. The fake boyfriend

I actually haven’t seen much of these, but it’s a trope that I admittedly love, or at least usually enjoy. The idea of it is just so much fun (though in essence maybe it’s not the best written trope) and I found myself enjoying the previous books I’ve read with this trope quite a bit (To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before, All I’ve Never Wanted). Basically one of the characters (usually the female character) take another character to pose as their boyfriend, for some given reason. It sounds kind of ridiculous? But I assure you, it’s fun to read, and totally swoony! (Even though swoony is not a word, shhhhh. It is now.)

7. Best friend’s brother/sister

Generally this goes for older siblings? The protagonist has a crush on his/her friend’s older brother/sister, usually some family/friend thing that prevents them from getting together, etc etc. You know how it goes. I’ve seen this pretty often, I have to say, and most times I believe I enjoy it! Sometimes though it comes off as extra cliché and becomes annoying to read about, but there are definitely times where it’s very well done (and not, you know, creepy or weird or something).

Aaaaaaaaand that’s a wrap! 7 romance tropes that you either love or hate, in honor of the upcoming Valentine’s Day! Be sure to let me know down below: which one is YOUR favourite trope? Which ones do you hate? What other tropes do you love? Let me know in the comments!

Until the Next Meal, Analee

41 thoughts on “7 Romance Tropes You Know You Secretly (Or Not-So-Secretly) Love and Hate

  1. I’m a sucker for the forbidden love one. I will always, always love it if it’s done well. I like the fake boyfriend one too! There’s just something so fun about two people who don’t think they’re gonna fall in love but end up doing so..

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  2. I love most of these- except love triangles and insta love I’m afraid! I’m not an extremist about it though- I agree there are rare occasions when both can work- and I’m all for insta-lust- as long as they develop genuine feelings at a normal rate after they meet!

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  3. Can I love this post a million times? I actually don’t mind insta love if – BIG IF!! – the love proves itself in the end. Like if it’s insta-love and then they go through the worst shit imaginable and still end up together I’m okay with it. One thing I actually am not a fan of is the best friend love. I honestly find most best friends really annoying and just there for comic relief or to “complicate” the plot. Ehhhhh.

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    • 😘 Ahhhh I’m so happy you like this post so much!
      Yes, it definitely depends sometimes on the situation. A lot of the times instalove proves to be kind of ridiculous or annoying but other times perhaps it’s a bit more believable I guess. 🙂
      Haha I personally kind of love the best friends falling in love, but there are a few books I’ve read with the trope that makes me understand what you mean. 😉 It sucks when that happens!

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  4. Forbidden love, players, and BEST FRIEND ROMANCES OHMYGOD ASDHSJDHSJGDHSDHJSGDHSGD THAT IS SO PERFECT. Analee, you continue to stun me with how awesome your posts always are, even if I don’t always get around to telling you so! I loved this post…I can tell you a player, you know (hint hint, Jace Herondale-not the attractive Herondale AKA Will) AND YES ERMAGERD THE LOVE TRIANGLE IN THE INFERNAL DEVICES IS PURE PERFECTION. Mostly because of Will. And Jem. Everyone loves Jem. He’s too sweet and kind and good-hearted to be hated even if he did temporarily steal Tessa from Will. BUT WHATEVER IT IS ALL ABSOLUTELY PERFECT. Forbidden love is the best type of love because it’s WAAAAAAAAAAY more interesting to read about. I’m a sucker for it. Like Malec? THAT IS AWESOMENESS. Even though LGBT relationships within Shadowhunters and especially Downworlders does not have the Clave’s seal of approval (but who cares about the Clave anyway?) Malec still happened and I am a happy pumpkin.
    Unfortunately, insta-love really bothers me. It usually never happens to be that the insta-love is always caused by appearance and for sure authors don’t write insta-love with the characters looking at each other at first and falling in love with each other’s personalities and souls. I haven’t seen that yet! So until I get a good insta-love story that not’s stupid and does NOT deal too much with appearance (because really “if only our eyes could see souls instead of bodies, how very different our ideals of beauty would be”-some random person quoted off the internet 😛 ), I ain’t no happy camper with insta-love.
    BUT. You compiled a great list of love tropes in YA books and I like the Valentine’s day theme for posts that’s going around. The only thing is I’ve rather been reading all these Valentine’s day posts rather than writing them, so oh well. We’re all still perfect Valentine’s day BFF ringleaders anyway.

    Great post Ana!!! ❤ ❤ 😀 🙂

    Love and books,

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    • OMG thank youuuuuu. 💞 That’s one of the best compliments ever, it means so much to me that you think so! I had so much fun writing this post and I’m so happy you liked it.
      AND YESSSSS. My love for the Infernal Devices love triangle has no end!! IT’S JUST SO BEAUTIFUL. And omg Will and Jem are absolutely amazing I love them so much!
      And yes, forbidden love can definitely rend things more interesting at times.
      I definitely get that sentiment! There’s very few books that actually manage to pull it off without making it seem like a joke or an excuse. I guess the idea of it is just not believable enough for readers to actually entertain the idea. Also, it just doesn’t leave space for the development between oh, he/she is really attractive (insta lust, I guess) and ‘I think I’m in love with him/her!!’ LOL it sounds ridiculous when I put it like that but it’s true.
      Thank you so much for taking the time to write such a lovely comment!! I’m glad you’re liking the Valentine’s Day theme going on, ’cause it doesn’t seem to be ending anytime soon haha.
      Thank you!! 😘

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  5. OMG I LOVE THE FAKE BOYFRIEND. My heart hearts it. It’s so perfectly rom-com and ridiculous. Very good time. Very good.
    Forbidden love! love it! I’ve heard some say it’s unrealistic…ahem what? Whoever first said this clearly never knew and Indian family lol.

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    • YES YES YES!! I love it so much, it’s literally SO ADORABLE. Tis perfection, really; fake boyfriend=happy and squealing Analee. In most cases, at least.
      Hahaha YESS forbidden love is not totally impossible, and plus it makes for good entertainment. Yes. Very good very good. I’m happy. 😂
      *Dies along with you.* INFERNAL DEVICES, MY LOVE. 😍

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  6. Insta love drives me nuts particularly in fantasy where they’ve often just met and are suddenly ready to die for each other despite never having had an actual conversation. Love triangles are ok as long as they don’t go on too long (the selection). I just read a accidentally got married after a drunken night in vegas which was quite good. Also like the famous person/normal person pairings 🙂

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    • Yes, it’s quite ridiculous, really! I mean, to each his own, if someone likes it than that’s perfectly fine but it’s hard to accept something when it’s borderline crossing the thin line of fiction and ridiculous. 😂
      Love triangles that are dragged on can definitely become a nuisance!
      Ooh yes celebrity and non-celebrity pairings are lots of fun to read too. ❤️ Can’t believe I forgot that one, I enjoy that trope quite a bit haha.

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  7. Best friends romance is my favorite trope, too! I can never get enough of it, I find this 100% more cute than other types of relationships, haha. Instalove is probably the one I hate the most, because, I don’t know if that happens in real life, and, most of the time, this is just really unrealistic!

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    • It is absolutely fabulous, in my opinion!! There have been times though where it wasn’t 100% amazing, but as a general rule they’re really adorable. ❤️
      Yes, a popular sentiment that I’m going to have to agree with! There are very few books I have read which make instalove seem anything less than ridiculous or unrealistic..it’s just too hard to believe and mostly seems like an excuse to skip developing the love between characters.

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  8. I love the best-friends-romance! It’s just so adorable, and a trope you’d actually want in real life too. One I can’t deal with is a student-teacher relationship? I find myself cringing at the thought. When I see it in a synopsis, I tend to skip the book. For me personally, there is also no excuse for insta-love. I mean, it’s so unrealistic? You have never met that person before, or talked to them, so how can you love them? Anyway, like you said, some people must enjoy it, so it’s good for them.

    Great list!

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    • I know right?!! It’s totally something is be up for having in real life; but for now I guess I’m gonna have to be satisfied with reading about it in books! 😂
      And yes!! The student-teacher relationship trope is definitely not one of my favourites either. It’s just too… Yeah, no thanks.
      I know right?? I mean insta lust is one thing, but love after only a couple of encounters (or even none at all) is pretty ridiculous.
      Thanks! ❤️

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  9. Except the 1st and 3rd, I pretty much love all the other tropes, especially forbidden love is my favourite. I can even tolerate insta-love but I hate love triangles. BUT I really need to see, rather read TID to find out why everybody, even love triangle haters love it! Great post Analee! 🙂

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    • Haha yes forbidden love is a popular one! It’s quite entertaining to say the least. And omg yesssss!! You MUST read TID and tell me your thoughts! I’m quite certain you’ll love it at least like its love triangle—or at least I hope. 😉
      Thank you! ❤️

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  10. Well played madam.

    I’m a die hard player/bad boy trope addict, always have been, probably always will be.

    I also like a bit of the ol’ forbidden fruit so that’s definitely a plus.

    I’m also a die hard insta-love hater. I despise insta-love it’s just so ridiculously unbelievable.

    The rest I’m not overly bothered by as long as they’re executed well 🙂

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    • Why thank you! 😉
      Ha ha yes the player/bad boy trope is quite easy to get into! Forbidden love is quite good as well.
      I totally get you there! Insta love is just so hard to believe and ends up feeling like a joke or a poor excuse for something in most cases.

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  11. You should try The fill-in boyfriend by Kasie West, it’s awesome. P.S. I love the best friend troupe but you know after a lot of chapters in the book when they start falling in love one of them reminds the other that they were their first kiss… I mean, what? And too will go as far as when they were 4 or 5 yrO. And I like the Bad boy one too but is it necessary that the guy is a player but the girl is still a virgin or more far fetched that she has never kissed anyone before. That is too much.

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